Saturday, October 22, 2022

IT'S OKAY

To everyone who's struggling in their lives, just know that you're doing your best

Every person has their own struggles (different than others) and sometimes we expect people to understand what we're going through. But remember that it's okay even if they don't get you. Their struggles and situations might be different than yours and hence, it might be hard for them to understand. It's only you who can feel your pain. People can sympathize with you but never get it until they're at your place themselves.

I know you seek emotional support. You need someone to help you out or comfort you. And it hurts so bad when people (those who seem closer) don't treat you the way you want to be treated. It breaks you down. The world seems to be the worst place. 
In such situations, you feel like being dead. You wish you never existed. You don't want to live but don't want to die either. I know this is the toughest situation one can ever be in. You feel like running away from everyone and everything. You want an escape from the reality. 

Whenever you find yourself so lost, remember that you've gone through a lot all alone and still survived! You're here cause YOU'RE MEANT TO BE. God has plans for you!

Life's not a piece of cake for anyone but for some, it's a little more harder than others. And when life gets complicated, IT'S OKAY to feel low. After all, we all are humans with emotions! Hence IT'S OKAY to break down sometimes. IT'S OKAY to cry your heart out whenever you feel like it. 

This is a journey. You're not meant to give up. Life chose to be tough on you so you've to choose to be tougher! IT'S OKAY if sometimes, it requires you to be vulnerable. Being vulnerable also requires a lot of courage. There will be some people telling you to stay strong and stop crying but remember, crying makes you no weaker. Never ever let 'anyone' tell you that you're weak. You're strong cause not everyone can survive the hard times but you did.

Applause yourself for getting out of bed everyday even when you don't feel like moving. There are days you might not feel alive but remember, deep down you know that you deserve better things. See, it's only you who wants people to treat you better. You know why you want that? Because you know that you deserve it! You know that you're struggling a lot and still making your way through life and you deserve something good for doing this much. 
So when you know it all, why wait for others? Be your own cheerleader! Yeah i know it's not as easy as it seems but these are just the circumstances that are holding you back. YOU ARE A WINNER. Don't let these things dominate you.

Now, coming to people again, i know people around you create a huge impact on your life. Some of them really want to help you but don't know how to. But the others...they don't care what is going on with you and always try to tell you that your problems are so small to stress over. They make you feel inferior and that's where you start doubting yourself but hey, these people are not literate enough to acknowledge what mental health means and how it gets affected.
Many will tell you to avoid such people but that's actually very hard. Especially when you're at a crucial phase, it takes a lot to gather the courage of eliminating toxic people from your life. There might be different reasons (they might be close to you and if not, your current situation is somehow so unmanageable that these people stay in your life anyhow).

Now we gotta find a solution to this right? See, things might not go the same for everyone but here's something that can help. Try new things! I know this is so common to say but by "new", i mean the things you're not supposed to do cause sometimes, the things we hate make us feel most alive. For example, If you don't like rain, go out and dance in the rain and see the magic happening right there. 
I know these will be the temporary moments of happiness but you can try to keep yourself engaged. 
A great tip is to write notes for yourself. Discuss things with yourself and find solutions as per your situation! A healthy self-talk is important.

In the end, always know that you'll be okay. Nothing lasts forever and the same goes for these tough times too!
IT'S OKAY not to ACT strong if you don't feel like it. And not knowing how to tackle a tough situation won't make you weak at all!
 Just remind yourself that you have to be responsible for your happiness so give yourself all the love you deserve. 

"The happier you'll be, the stronger you'll feel"


And yeahhhh!! You're not only gonna be okay but also blossom like a flower...soon or later but one day for sure! :))

Friday, October 14, 2022

October


"October is the month of falling in love"

"And why do you think so?"

"Umm...maybe because it has the vibes of 'fall'!"

"Does it? Or you said that just because everyone says so..."

"No-no! It's about the hues of fall, the craving for warmth when surroundings feel cold..."

"Or maybe you associate the 'falling of leaves' with 'falling in love'?" 

"Maybe"

"October feels sad to me"

"Why?"

"See, leaves are falling down from the trees. It's the detachment! The trees used to be green once..."

"They're now becoming leafless? They seem to be dead?"

"Yeah! As if someone has taken their lives away! Moreover, the leaves, which were green only because they were attached to the tree. They're lifeless now and the saddest part is, they'll never be alive again."

"But the trees will grow new leaves and get back to life soon after!"

"That's what detachment is about! Initially, both become lifeless but one of them moves on with time finding new ones to flourish themselves but the other one completely loses its existence."

"That's sad. And how weird of us that we get happy seeing someone's departure right?"

"Indeed!"


Thursday, October 6, 2022

What in life matters the most?

"Do you think we'll be able to make it till the end?"

"I don't know"

"Though I'm attached to you but it still seems as if we're not made for each other"

"Maybe things are not working as per we thought they will"

"Exactly"

"But i still don't want to leave you. I want to let everything keep going with the flow"

"But it feels heavy on the heart"

"Won't the departure feel heavy?"

"You're not getting me. I just don't want our feelings to get hurt if we take longer to depart"

"Do you feel bad about me?"

"Not bad but I'm not happy either"

"I'm trying my best"

"But you know that you are not what you're trying to be. It must be tough for you too"

"So you're saying that you want to leave?"

"I'm confused. I lack emotional support and even though you love me, you aren't able to give me the support i want. It'll be better if i just try to find that support within me"

"No, I'm here for you. But you don't try to make me feel the way i want"

"The same goes for you. Your way of loving is different than how i want to be loved. And i know it isn't suiting me"

"I'll try to give you the space you want "

"But until we're together, I'll always have some expectations from you. And it makes me sad when you go another way"
                                     ...


Sometimes, you just need to let things go.

You might be attached to someone or you might not want to hurt them. But is it worth the pain you're going through? 
No matter what comes in your way, your happiness should be the first priority. Even if you're being called selfish for it.
There are people who will be uplifting you! You've not even seen half the world yet, how are you supposed to meet the right one so soon?
Set yourself free and open to new opportunities, life has so much to offer and you don't need to hold yourself back at someone.
If it's meant to, it'll stay but if it's not, let it go "happily" :))


And at the end, if there's something that should matter the most, it's your happiness.

Tuesday, October 4, 2022

the city that never disappoints

"you know what makes this city so special for me?"

"No. I thought you'd be hating this city for the tons of pain it gave you"

"It's not about the place but the people! This place was a relief when i was burdened by how people treat me"

"So that's the reason?"

"Half the reason"

"Then what's the other half?"

"It's the love. This is the place that made me experience what the first love feels like. Even if i couldn't make it till the end, it's always special"

"How the place even matters then? It's 'about the people' right?"

"Yes but just look at the sceneries here. I believe that the surroundings make moments even more beautiful!"




Just a thread about how beautifully has God carved this place<3
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Nainital to me, will always be a city that carries love.

Do you talk to me through the moon?

"seems as if the moon wants to say something, or is it you?"
Looking up at the sky last evening,
I felt a sense of closeness to the moon;
Suddenly my breath started shrinking 
I somehow felt you around (maybe not so soon).

i looked a little deeper
Seemed as if you're watching the moon too,
Wait! Are you still my keeper?
Cause it felt as you're whispering to the moon about me,
And the moon is working as a messenger thru!

felt as if the moon wants to take my message to you,
But i was numb...
Do i even have a message for you?

A Diary Entry

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